어른들과 샤브샤브 가기 싫어요.

My husband and I love shabu-shabu. It's my father-in-law's birthday next week, and my husband said that his dad likes shabu-shabu too, so let's make a reservation at a pretty decent place in our neighborhood and go. But... it's so awkward. After shabu-shabu, you eat kal-guksu and then fried rice or porridge, right? My father-in-law and mother-in-law just eat with their own spoons. This makes me so uncomfortable. When that agujeam (spicy braised monkfish) course place was trending, I went there too. Even though I put food on a separate plate for them to share, his dad's chopsticks would fly over to the main plate... So I couldn't eat it..... And he does the same at the duck soup place.. I can't eat duck meat, so even when I was just eating rice with the side dishes served there, his chopsticks would just go for my side dishes. The elders and my husband ate the duck soup, and I just ate rice with the side dishes. I was eating just with the side dishes after asking for my own. But, even though he ate all the side dishes in front of him and was eating rice with two of my side dishes, he kept eating diligently without asking why I wasn't eating ^^ After he's done, he always uses a toothpick.... Honestly, my stomach turns easily, so I want to avoid sharing food with others, but my husband wants to go to a shabu-shabu place because it's winter and you eat warmly. But I don't want to tell him that I don't want to go because I hate my father-in-law's table manners, as it might hurt his feelings. Even during this Chuseok, when we moved to ancestral rites in one car, my father-in-law was sitting in the back of the driver's seat, and my husband and I quietly took out and put on masks. My husband asked for them. I thought he sprinkled ginkgo seeds he picked up in the car. My mother was already wearing a mask next to me. She's also going to the dentist, so it was so agonizing. My father-in-law was born in '54, he drinks but doesn't smoke. My mother also drinks. So, even more so, I want to choose individual dishes served on separate trays, rather than a place where my father-in-law's spoon can just come in. I want to eat individual hot pots or individual shabu-shabu. Can others eat shabu-shabu like this with elders? Even when I serve dongtaeng (pollack stew) or seafood stew in individual bowls, his spoon just comes into the pot. ㅠ

다 드신 후에 이쑤시개도 필수이신데.... 솔직히 비위가 별로 안 좋아서 같이 먹는 음식은 피하고 싶은데 남편이 겨울이니깐 따뜻하게 먹는 샤브집 가자는데 아버님 식사예절이 싫어서 가기가 싫다고 말하는 게 남편한테 상처가 될 것 같아요.

이번 추석에도 성묘를 한차로 이동을 하는데 아버님이 운전석 뒤에 앉으셔서 말씀하시는데, 저희 부부는 마스크를 조용히 뜯어서 썼어요. 남편이 달라고 해서요.

차안에 은행 열매 줏어와서 뿌렸인 줄 알았어요. 옆에 어머니는 먼저 마스크 착용하고 계시더라구요. 치과도 다니시는데,너무 고역이었어요.

아버님 연세는 54년생이신데, 술은 드시고 담배는 안 피우세요. 어머니도 술은 드세요.

그래서, 더더욱 아버님 수저가 그냥 들어 올 수 있는 곳보다 1인 1 매뉴로 각각 쟁반에 나오는 메뉴를 선택하고 싶은데, 다른분들은 이럴 경우 어른들과 샤브 같은 걸 같이 드실 수 있나요? 동태탕. 해물탕에도 개인접시 덜어드려도 그냥.... 숟가락이 냄비로 와요. ㅠ