We're a dual-income couple in our mid-to-late 30s working at small companies in the countryside. Our earnings are similar, though my husband takes home about 200k won ($150) more. When we got married, he didn't even have 20 million won ($15k) saved and got zero support from his family. We started our life in a Jeonse (deposit-only rental) solely with my savings and help from my parents. I've been managing the finances, and after saving hard for 3 years, we bought a house in the high 500 million won range ($450k+) with a 200 million won loan.

Maybe because we bought a house, my in-laws think we're loaded? Out of nowhere, my MIL asks us to give my SIL about 30 million won ($23k) for her wedding. In my world, I can't comprehend this. I thought they'd be too embarrassed to even bring it up in front of me, so I have no idea why they think we should chip in for her wedding fund lol.

My SIL is in her early 30s. She worked for 2-3 years after graduating and spent all that money traveling for a year. After her trip, she spent another 2 years as a 'gong-si-saeng' (studying for the civil service exam), gave up recently, and just got a job at a small company. I don't get how she's planning to get married when she's broke and blew all her savings. When MIL mentioned the 30 million won during a year-end dinner, my face immediately turned sour, and my husband said, 'What money do we have? We only have bank debt,' which shut her up.

But then, over the New Year's weekend, she called my husband privately to talk about the wedding money again. I could hear everything—she was saying, 'You're the older brother, help her out as much as you can.' After he hung up, I told him I didn't want to trash talk his family, but his dad and sister are so shameless for just staying quiet while his mom says stuff like that.

My husband snapped back, saying, 'Can't my mom at least ask? It's not like I said I'd give it. She's just saying help if we have the means,' basically taking her side lol. I told him, 'Your sister is delusional, how does she want to get married with no money? People need to have a conscience.' When I got harsh, he told me to stop being so obsessed with money. So I told him, 'The only reason you're living like this is because I blocked your family from taking our money and saved it. If you want to go back to living like you used to, pack your bags and go to your mom's.' He left the house in a rage, but came back in less than 3 hours and apologized.