++++ Additional update. I understand why many of you find this frustrating and call me foolish for my choices. I only dated one person in college before marrying my second boyfriend, so maybe I just don't know men that well. I didn't tell my parents because I didn't want to break their hearts. My husband treats my parents so well, so I thought I should just suck it up and be the only one who's upset so they wouldn't have to know this reality. Regarding the 10 million KRW from my in-laws, it hasn't actually reached my hands yet. They gave the bankbook to my husband when we got married, and he still has it. I just consider it 'received' in name only. Since it was money I didn't really need, I just told him to keep it safe. I know I'm being a fool. Reading the comments made me realize divorce might be the answer. However, I wanted to hear from people who have cut ties with their in-laws to see what their married life is like, so I can try everything before ending it without regrets. This isn't bait; if it were, I wouldn't have come back to check. I've been glued to my phone all day because I'm so stressed.
Hi. I'm the youngest daughter who grew up wealthy, using my parents' card until my late 20s. I married my husband after 5 years of dating. He's also the youngest, but from a total opposite backgroundโa stingy family where he wasn't really loved. Since we were dating, I liked his diligence and persistence. He's doing well in his career on his own. But the 'in-laws' behind him are the problem. They didn't like me even before the wedding. 1. They openly looked down on me, saying 'Go meet a civil servant or a teacher.' Since I run my own business and have a free-spirited lifestyle, they told my husband right in front of me to find a girl with a 'stable' job. My husband got so mad he cut them off for a few years, but they barely reconciled in time for the wedding meeting. 2. My family's support (hundreds of millions) vs. In-laws' support (10 million). My parents chipped in several hundred million KRW for our home. The in-laws? Exactly 10 million. But the funny thing is, after giving that 10 million, they act like they bought the houseโnagging me not to overdo the interior and to 'save money.' They've framed me as some 'luxury-loving girl' and are forcing their version of frugality on me. It's ridiculous. 3. Peak disrespect and lack of class. My father-in-law once handed the phone to his friend while talking to my husband and told him to 'greet him like your father-in-law' (I heard it all on speakerphone). From the very first holiday, they made me cook the rice cake soup. When we go to my parents' place, they take my husband to luxury restaurants and buy him nice clothes, supporting us whenever big expenses come up. But at the in-laws? They aren't poor, but we always go to cheap street pubs or all-you-can-eat places. They down soju and beer and give me dirty looks for not drinking... Honestly, the class difference is so huge I don't even want to be there. 4. Ungrateful people. My parents send the best food and gifts from department stores every holiday. Shouldn't there be a 'thank you' or 'let's eat together sometime'? They just shove it in their mouths and that's it. 5. My husband is now taking their side. I've endured all this, but my husband has changed lately. He's starting to feel bad for his parents, and every time we bicker, he subtly takes their side and says they've done nothing wrong. I don't want to see them anymore. Honestly, is it even worth having a kid in this environment? They seem so low-class and rude, and now that my husband is acting like this, I'm losing all affection for him. To my seniors in life, can I just cut off the in-laws? Or is this marriage just a total wrong answer? Please give me some bone-breaking advice. Since I'm already married, divorce isn't an easy conclusion to jump to, so tell me how to handle the middle process. Please don't just say 'you dug your own grave'โI already know that part ใ ใ .
"Users are giving her a reality check, calling her out for ignoring obvious red flags and warning her that a husband who sides with toxic, low-class in-laws is the ultimate dealbreaker."
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