I've been failing at dieting lately, and the algorithm showed me an ad to try out for a diet model position. I applied, they called, and since I was free that day, I went straight in for a consultation. It's not exercise-based; it's one of those Juvis-style treatments that helps you lose body fat without working out. They cover the full cost until you hit your goal weight, but the catch is you have to maintain at least 50% of the weight loss every week, and you have to let them use your before-and-after photos for promotion for 4 years. For the 'after' shots, they reveal your face, provide hair/makeup/styling, and do a profile shoot in a studio. I thought it'd be great motivation, so I signed up and paid a 3.5 million won ($2,600) deposit. If you cancel midway, that money just turns into a regular membership fee. But when I got home, my husband saw the contract and got so mad, asking why I signed something like this without even talking to him. He says he can't give me permission. He usually hates me showing skin, so I checked to make sure I wouldn't have to wear anything too revealing for the profile shots before signing. Since he's always telling me I need to lose weight (we both tease each other about our belly fat), I thought he'd actually like it. Instead, he's acting like it's the end of the world, asking why he even has to explain why he hates it and calling me immature. I told him I get why he's upset I didn't mention it beforehand, but I didn't think it was something I needed 'permission' for. He insists it is. Now he says he doesn't even want to be in the same room as me because he's so disgusted by my behavior, and he went out to sleep elsewhere. For context, even when I joined a twice-a-week English study group, he complained that I didn't tell him first. Is it normal for husbands and wives to report every little thing like this? We've already registered the marriage and started living together, currently looking for a wedding venue. He runs a shop and works from noon until late at night, while I work Mon-Wed-Fri as an interpreter and do a side hustle, so I have more free time.
(Update) I'm not unemployed; I have my main job (interpreter) and a side gig (short-term rentals). I earn plenty. I honestly thought my husband was being controlling, but after reading the comments, I realize I should have consulted him first. From my perspective, I didn't see anything wrong with it. The 3.5 million won deposit is apparently to prevent people from getting the free treatments and then refusing to provide photos, and they said they'd refund and re-charge it every month before the payment date. If I want a refund now, I'd have to pay the full price of the treatments I already got plus a 10% penalty, which would be at least 500k won ($370). I'm not a binge eater; I'm just around a size 66 (US 6-8) and wanted to get back to my old body before the wedding, but it wasn't working. I kept getting injured while exercising, so I thought losing fat without exercise first and then maintaining it with light workouts would be better. I'll apologize to my husband and try to talk it out. I didn't realize my 'intellectual level' looked that bad to outsiders. T_T
"The community is collectively face-palming at OP's 'naivety.' Most believe she got scammed by a shady diet clinic and that dropping $2,600 without a word to her husband is a major red flag in a marriage."
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